Discretion
Discretion is the shared etiquette of protecting everyone's privacy — keeping identities and experiences confidential inside the lifestyle.
Discretion is the quiet code that underpins the entire lifestyle: what happens among consenting adults stays private. It means protecting not only your own confidentiality but everyone else's, automatically and without exception.
In practice, discretion shows up as no photos, no naming names, and no carrying gossip from a club or party into the outside world. It is why phones are banned in most venues and why "what is shared here stays here" is treated as sacred.
This culture of privacy is exactly what allows people from every profession and background to take part with confidence. Respecting discretion is one of the surest ways to earn trust and be welcomed back.
Frequently asked
To protect everyone's privacy. A no-photos rule means guests can relax knowing their confidentiality is safe.
No. Recognising someone is normal; naming or outing them is a serious breach of discretion.